You’re trying your hardest, but it doesn’t seem to be working

Ever since your ex said “we need to talk,” you have been trying to process, grasp and grieve. No matter what you try, you seem to end up back at the beginning. Taking one step forward only to put you two steps back when making progress. You’re trying your hardest, all the time, to pushContinue reading “You’re trying your hardest, but it doesn’t seem to be working”

You were in charge of your family finances, or so your ex had you believe

My story: When my ex-husband and I got engaged he suggested we start a joint account to save for the wedding. While I didn’t 100% agree with him and countered with opening up a separate individual savings account to do the same thing, we ended up opening the joint account. Little did I know, thisContinue reading “You were in charge of your family finances, or so your ex had you believe”

Financial Abuse… that’s a thing?

When someone hears the words “domestic abuse” they associate it with physical abuse or verbal abuse. The truth is, financial abuse occurs just as frequently and is often the first sign of dating violence and domestic abuse. A study by the Centers for Financial Security found that 99% of domestic violence cases also involved financial abuse. The abuserContinue reading “Financial Abuse… that’s a thing?”

Control, Verbal Abuse and Violence

There is a stigma with domestic violence that has been around since before any of us were put on Earth. It is an enormous problem made difficult to see because those of us who are victims hide it, and also because it is hard to understand why those claiming to be close to us, endContinue reading “Control, Verbal Abuse and Violence”

DID YOU IGNORE THE RED FLAGS? YOU’RE NOT ALONE

My story: I have been going back and forth on whether or not to launch this blog. Not because I don’t want to share my story, but because I am terrified of being judged for what I’ve been through and even more terrified my abusers will find me. For 18 years I hid behind aContinue reading “DID YOU IGNORE THE RED FLAGS? YOU’RE NOT ALONE”