When dating a narcissist, or worse…being married to a narcissist, the scariest thing is thinking about how to end the relationship safely. Since narcissism is a mental health disorder, you never know how the person is going to react and therefore, need to be aware that things could get physically dangerous.
Here are five steps to disarming the narcissist:
- break all forms of communication
- heal beyond the emotional connection – release the trauma from your being and heal the parts of you that require healing to wholeness
- build your inner identity – create a thrive identity, a true self where narcissists don’t play
- connect to the true source – your true connection releasing you into knowing at the deepest level of your being that you are adored and nourished beyond measure simply because you exist
- generate your own life
Seems easy right? No. This is the hardest thing you are going to have to do. Depending on how long you have been in this relationship, is how long the person has been playing mind games. You are going to have to break the spell they had on you, essentially reprogram your brain to heal.
How to prepare for a breakup with a narcissist:
- constantly remind yourself that you deserve better
- strengthen your relationships with your empathetic friends
- build a support network with friends and family who can help remind you what is reality
- urge your partner to to therapy
- get a therapist yourself
You cannot change a person with narcissistic behaviors or make them happy by loving them enough or by changing yourself to meet their whims and desires. Believe me, I know, I tried for 14 years in my marriage and another 4 years prior with someone else. For 18 years, I was a big disappointment, but the truth is…they were never in tune with me and the same is for you. They will never be empathetic to your experiences and you will always feel empty after an interaction with them. Break the cycle…YOU deserve better.