Spotting a narcissist is difficult unless you’re a qualified mental health expert, and even then it can be difficult to diagnose. When you’re romantically involved with one, it’s even harder to spot a narcissist because you’re not thinking, “Are they a narcissist?” You’re wondering if how you’re being treated is healthy and sustainable in the long-run.
The most recent edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders lists nine criteria for narcissistic personality disorder, but specifies that a person only needs to meet five of the nine to qualify them clinically as a narcissist.
Official criteria for NPD diagnosis:
- grandiose sense of self-importance
- preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love
- belief they’re special and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people or institutions
- need for excessive admiration
- sense of entitlement
- interpersonally exploitative behavior
- lack of empathy
- envy of others or a belief that others are envious of them
- demonstration of arrogant and haughty behaviors or attitudes
Are you thinking, “OMG, this is sounding way too familiar.” “He/she fits five or more of these criteria…what do I do now?” Don’t worry, the next blog will give you tips on how to handle the situation. For now…SPREAD THE WORD!